When I started writing this blog I found some sage advice on a website called Dads Guide to Twins which I thought I would reflect on now that we are nearly a whole month in!
“Lower your expectations. Whatever you thought you could get done wont get done.”
A major achievement in the B household these days is to have a shower or maybe even leave the house. Getting out of the front door with the full team needs the same amount of planning as an expedition to the south pole.
“Forget about you. Newborn twins require all hands on deck. Toddlers definitely need attention too. You will be busy and it will be a rare moment that you find time to do anything else.”
“You will be busy” he says! You will be f**king busy more like! Its a fun packed day to say the least. L is always a lot of fun and we still have time for a giggle but it is none stop. No two ways about it. On some days going to the loo is the closest thing you get to a bit of personal space!
I would put it more like GET HELP. Help is essential. At the end of a 5 day unassisted stretch you are beyond tired and that’s with two of us. Its amazing what an hour off can do for the soul! We are very lucky to have the help we do from C as well as from K’s parents who are helping out a coupe of days a week. We couldn’t do it without them.
“Let it go, whatever “it” is that you were expecting, particularly during waking hours. Time to relax? Let it go. Time for sleep? Let it go. Time to clean? Don’t even think about it. You get the picture.”
Yep we get the picture all right! A month in and I think we have already forgotten what “it” might have been. Time to relax is a precious commodity and may actually be more valuable than sleep tokens!
Obviously I’m exaggerating a little. Its doable and we wouldn’t change one thing (apart from the whole Intensive Care thing of course!). So far we are doing OK and K is being her usual super organised and efficient self while I sigh and huff my way round the house! I would however add a 5th bit of advice to this list.
You will be tired. Physically, mentally and emotionally cream crackered at times. Get over it and get on with it.